Well, blogging about your hookups is weird, at least. I mean, I didn't get it earlier when CoolTop and I chatted about it but you do develop this thing where you're hooking up to blog about it as well as hooking up to have fun. And then you start to wonder how much you're doing it for the culture which you're blogging about as much as yourself. It's subtle, but it's there. Like you get frustrated on a hookup app and then you take a screenshot of the conversation so that you can later come back to it and blog about it. It goes beyond the natural boasting and sharing among a small group of friends. Sorta like the cultural anthropologist's dilemma. How do you get close enough to your subjects without interfering and changing the culture you're trying to observe. But, oddly, the subject here is your own authentic voice.
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And your voice certainly comes across as authentic, which is what makes reading your blog so edifying. It's the case with all of the best bloggers and you and I and they know who they are!
Paul, NYC
And I thank you! I'm more than fine with you making me feel weird. ;-) jk
So many times in the middle of sex I have I said to myself "I need to remember __________" about something that just happened. At first it bothered me. Now I look on it as I'd want to remember it anyway--I just happen to make it more public than I used to, when I just sent stories to a few trusted f-buds.
Interesting thought... I agree... I find that sometimes I want my blog to be about the sex, and then I want it to be about the emotions I go through, and take some of the sex posts to drafts, and out of view. I think you are right though sometimes it is for the "community", but mostly because I'm horny.
Yeah, I've done that too. And you're right, that doesn't bother me as much either. But every now and then I wonder if I'm having more sex than I normally would... Or if I'm picking and choosing the guys to play with based on how interesting they'd be as a post... or picking the guys I write about to and then skewing the reality from a reader's point of view...
And the thing is, I think you'd have an audience no matter what the focus of the blog is, the emotions or the sex. So it does feel kinda strange that just the act of blogging changes things a bit. And that's where I find that although everything I write about is real, it's somehow edited unwittingly
I used to write a vanilla blog that involved visits to small towns, rod trips and of course, restaurants we'd eat at along the way. Over time, I began to realize that I was more interested in getting the right pictures and seeing the right places for the blog rather than the actual enjoyment of the adventure. I haven't ever felt that way about my sex blog. Then again, you have a hell of a lot more sex than I do!
Actually, pictures are a good example! I've had amazing playtime with some buds and every now and then I'm like fuck, I wish I had a pic of that and I reach for the phone to take a pic... And then just that small act kinda ruins the moment and becomes about getting the right shot instead of being in that moment, the act of documenting something interfering with the honesty of that exact moment...
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