His Growlr profile noted that he was submissive, but I think I went too far. I tore at his ass with my cock while holding him in a choke hold. He wasn't in any danger but I think he freaked out just enough for me to not be surprised that he didn't reply when I thanked him for a good time the next day. But then, to my surprise, he messaged me a couple of months later. So this next time, it was more of a straight-forward fuck. But he definitely wasn't a top. Nor did he like to take the lead. So I was confused until after and he opened up to me and started talking about his partner of over a decade, how he helped his partner through a scary period when brain cancer was discovered. And without saying it, I realized why he didn't message me.
We cuddled and I held onto him a little longer than is comfortable, a way of thanking him for opening up to me in so many ways.